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Narcissists and Echoists in Relationship: A Love Story Gone Wrong

The myth of Narcissus and Echo is more than just an ancient tale—it serves as a powerful metaphor for toxic relationship dynamics. Narcissus, a hunter admired for his extraordinary beauty, was emotionally detached, rejecting all who loved him. Echo, a mountain nymph, suffered a cruel fate that left her voiceless—able only to repeat the words of others. Together, they embody the painful cycle of one-sided relationships, where one person seeks admiration while the other loses themselves in reflection.

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Scarred Landscapes, Broken Lives: The Emotional Toll of the 2025 Los Angeles Fires

The firestorm that tore through Los Angeles in the second week of January 2025 left a scar not only on the Los Angeles landscape but also on the collective psyche of its residents. This was no ordinary fire—it was a natural catastrophe fueled by a perfect storm of severe winds, parched earth, and a climate increasingly shaped by global warming. Winds reaching 100 mph rendered firefighting efforts nearly impossible, and as the flames engulfed homes, schools, and businesses, they erased entire communities in their wake. What remains is a haunting, apocalyptic scene of loss and devastation.

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Secrecy and Shame: Boys, Men and Sexual Abuse

Monsters is a Netflix biographical crime drama anthology that recently focused on the Menendez murders (Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story). This series provided a lens into the psychological impact of familial abuse and provoked conversations about how these traumatic experiences can lead to extreme actions such as parricide.

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The Thing About Boundaries

Boundaries is a topic that is frequently discussed in therapy. I think most people have an idea about what they are and that they’re important, but how to implement and maintain them is often a challenge. There are whole books written on this topic. This piece of writing is just intended to get the conversation started.

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Tell Me What to Do! - What Advice means in Therapy

There’s a running joke in the Peanuts comic strip of Lucy offering psychological advice to other members of the gang for a mere 5 cents a session. And if you are familiar with Lucy, you won’t be surprised to learn that her advice is futile at best, and at its worst, blunt and devoid of empathy; the equivalent to “get over it”.

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Intention and Openness: Guiding lights for being in therapy

Uncertainty is largely an inherent experience in the process of self-discovery, and so it is unsurprising that it is a theme woven throughout parts of the therapeutic process. Whether starting therapy for the first time or starting again with a different therapist, themes of uncertainty can be present from the very beginning.

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On Becoming a Couple

Some people struggle in relationships. They just do. There are a few that can't quite seem to manage to begin them, and there are those who just can't seem to manage to sustain them. If you are one of the folks for whom this is true, here are a few things to think about.

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How to Protect Children from Sexual Predators

By recognizing the behavior of child sexual predators, and by understanding the factors that leave children vulnerable to sexual abuse, parents can gain greater control in protecting their children from child sexual abuse. Read more.

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Learning to Embrace Imperfection

When we let go of what “should be,” we make room to receive what is. Sometimes the hardest thing we can do is accept what is—accept ourselves. But only when we accept ourselves as we are can we really begin the change.

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Home for the Holidays?

Are you dreading seeing your family during the holidays? This is a common concern for many people I work with, and something I understand as a human with a complex and lively family of my own.

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The Narcissistic Parent and the Trophy Child

For these narcissistic parents, the child is groomed to be a trophy, a symbol of the parent's success and specialness, to be admired and envied in the way that the parent would wish for him or herself. The child, in this way, serves as a source of narcissistic supply for the parent.

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